NHBPM Day 14: “Advice for dealing with negative feedback in your community.“
I could TOTALLY have written about the prompt of the “your life as a reality show”…but to be honest, my mantra catch-phrase of “Chronic illness in a made-for-tv-movie kind’o’life” pretty much sums it up. Right there. Think Oprah met Jerry Springer and landed on the Ellen Degeneres show.
That’s my life.
You couldn’t make this shit up if you tried.
No, I decided to go with the other prompt…but I’m going to take it into a different kind of perspective…more of the “Be careful out there…there are folk who will sometimes stab you in the back with a spoon.”
Look, it’s hard enough living with the challenges of chronic afflictions…multiple, even. The last thing anyone wants to see is are negative commentary on/about something you’ve worked really hard on, or even to the extent of trying to bully their way through your own thoughts and ideas.
I had an experience with the latter.
My Twitter handle is “@ChronicBadass.” I chose it for a reason. The main reason I have this handle is…because it was also available. I do not sell merchandise, I do not use the name other than on the occasional Facebook status or, more often, you’ll see it when I post a tweet.
I received a very odd email at one point, many moons ago.
“I’m so sorry to do this to you…”
I’m surprised my spam filters didn’t trash it, as it was an unfamiliar email address.
I read it.
It was a “cease and desist” email of the “It’s my thing and I sell stuff in my online store with that phrase on it and I’m seeing a lawyer to start to trademark it, so don’t use it anymore. If you do, give credit to me…” yadda yadda yadda.
I politely responded as any normal law clerk with an Honours Degree would…
Seriously, source your shit, and be aware of what you’re threatening because all it will take is that ONE DAY that I’m in a most un#gladitude mood and I will, most assuredly, spew venomous legalese in your direction.
Most eloquently, of course.
I checked out her “original post”. I checked out her online store. What I also checked out were the PLETHORA (word of the day) of OTHER forums regularly selling “Chronic Badass” merchandise! I can even…*GASP*…create my own on CafePress and VistaPrint!! I have even…*GASP*…shared on Facebook and other social media OTHER people’s cool “Chronic Badass” memorabilia (cuz we all need to be reminded that we’re badass!!. 😉
I understand the need for people in the community to come up with new and original ideas, concepts and slogans. I have, too!! BUT…do NOT think that you are entitled, nor required to be the recipient of…to spew bullying literature on what you think someone should or should not do.
If you use an image…source that image.
If you refer to a website…courtesy would be to provide a link to that website.
If you think someone’s idea is FRABJOUS *jazz hands* let them know…but please remember…there are only so many variations you can come up with for the same ideas! If you’re unsure…ASK! Put it out there in the land of the social bits and bytes!
I’ve even had a very popular individual use a derivative of my previous Twitter handle (while I was using it)…”SpoonieVille.” My little slogan was, “Welcome to SpoonieVille.” All of a sudden, a post of hers referred to welcoming people to “SpoonVille.”
I commented on what the post was about. Just so she knew I’d seen it.
So did many others.
Spoon-stabbage in the thoracolumbar fascia.
And you must remember that if you were so awesome to have come up with something that other people find awesome…relish in that light.
Then come up with a solution that would make you feel most comfortable.
Talk, share, not share, move on.
It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are. ~Roy Disney
This post was written for Wego Health’s National Blog Post Month, 2012.